Connecticut Justice of the Peace


Professional Association Membership

AAWO [American Association of Wedding Officiants]
Foundation for Shamanic Studies
Usui Reiki Master

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Random thoughts in June

June is a busy month, not so much with traditional , planned well in advanced ceremonies, but with the short notice “Military Specials” we see so many of here in Groton.

Between the Coast Guard and the Sub Base we see a number of, we need just a quick ceremony because my spouse needs the ID etc & we will have a big one later (generally back home where ever that may be).

I really enjoy these ceremonies, the enthusiasm and the smiles, the other thing is that they tend to be less formal and can be more relaxed, except for the usual grievousness of the couples.

Something that continues to delight me , is that with even just a few days lead time, some of the couple can craft some of the most beautiful ( short) ceremonies, based all or in part on the reference materials I can e-mail them.

Some find little gems of delight that help them express themselves.

Of course that doesn’t work quite as well for the “are you available today” calls. I do have about a dozen ready scripts I run with (and have some flexibility with those as well).

My other joy is watching the expression on their faces when they see a keepsake certificate that delights them. “Collecting” antique documents and redacting them and making up certificates from scratch is a hobby.

I have very traditional, old fashion, and medieval all the way to the fun “tie dye” and specialty- like the graveyard at Halloween & Taco Bell.

I an say , I love my job

I am offering
Psychic Housekeeping: Back to the Basics
Saturday November 7, 2015 10:00 AM – 12:00 PM

Also Offering the course on Tuesday November 17, 2015 6:00 PM – 8:00 PM

Holistic Health Center, 495 Gold Star Hwy, Suite 324 Groton CT 06340

This is through the New London Healing Arts Center
for more Center offerings check out their web page

Course Overview:

Creative Visualization, Grounding, Psychic Self Defense

  • a. definitions of terms
  • b. Creative visualization- discussion & exercise
  • c. Grounding discussion- exercise using creative visualization
  • d. Psychic self defense: what it is, basic principles defense shields (creating your mental safe place) exercise construction of a basic defense shield & “it’s programming”
  • e. Various visualizations calisthenics time permitting

Cost: $20 (includes instruction and materials)

Register with Me or through the Center

Tomorrow Sept 6th in Berlin Ct is CT Pagan Pride Day rain or shine

Sunday October 6th is the UCONN Pagan Pride Day this time it is in Groton, Ct- easier & free parking, close to I95

I am preparing a new group of Drum Sticks with rattles on the “other” end. The humidity is slowing things down so I will only have a few for the September 6th event

Just had another wedding with a “nervous groom”
They really wanted to write their own vows but had a tough time putting their feeling down on paper (to share with family)
they found one of my samples that were written for tow women- weren’t sure if they could use it-” No problem” “I write all my stuff for ‘People’ ” just change a couple words.

(that was this morning- wedding at 10am)-

the vows were written to be read- I came prepared for Mr “tongue tied” and Ms “super shy” I asked “would you like me to like me to read these as a do you”- saw them both relax and agree

They had found a really nice little shoreline “nook” in Groton City- sweet view – hope to have copies of the pix

gorgeous weather, beautiful spot – incredibly sweet couple
a couple family members & friends- his son from a previous marriage
Skyped to the Philippines

we did the consult on the16th

great way to start the day

I really do love these short notice weddings, they can be so much fun

my Most Up To Date listing of Drum Beaters is on ETSY

my Etsy Name is  “aTinkar”

you can also e-mail me directly or phone to make arrangements

Just a note

each drum beater is made from naturally occurring “sticks” unless make a special one out of stock from a Woodcrafter’s store

all are individually made (and so far not lathe turned” so each one is different

even 2 sticks of the same wood and same length , I can do my best to make similar but identical is really tough- just sayin’




enjoy the video

I generally recommend to my couples that the obtain at least 1 more Official Certified copy of their Marriage Certificate
from the Clerk’s office.
( this is Not the Marriage License that your Officiant has just signed- it is a Certified Copy of the document the State Records;
in Connecticut – it is the original marriage license with the last section completed , this is completed by the clerks office when they record the license. One or more Copies of this are made and a seal is embossed (for a fee of course)

In Connecticut there is no issue with a name change if one spouse takes the last name of the other or the last names become hyphenated ( eg Mr Smith marries Miss Osten they take the last name Osten-Smith)
[If you want a Totally different last name that is a whole other situation]

with this Official Record of Marriage you can make name changes for ID’s (Driver’s License eg), Social Security

the other notifications are Insurance, Employers, Banks, Credit Cards
what many folks forget is the Post Office

when I mail a Commemorative Certificate it is frequently one of the first pieces of mail received under the new name
some Postal carriers/Post Offices will return the envelope to me as undeliverable as addressed because the name is different (this generally happens if the couple is moving into the residence of the spouse whose last name was changed) this seems to happen more in larger municipalities than the smaller ones.

Do not forget to let t your Mail Carrier know you just got married- so yo get your mail without delay
the return for the undeliverable mail may take a Month or more