Wanda L. De Coteau

Another Short Notice June Wedding

Just had another wedding with a “nervous groom”
They really wanted to write their own vows but had a tough time putting their feeling down on paper (to share with family)
they found one of my samples that were written for tow women- weren’t sure if they could use it-” No problem” “I write all my stuff for ‘People’ ” just change a couple words.

(that was this morning- wedding at 10am)-

the vows were written to be read- I came prepared for Mr “tongue tied” and Ms “super shy” I asked “would you like me to like me to read these as a do you”- saw them both relax and agree

They had found a really nice little shoreline “nook” in Groton City- sweet view – hope to have copies of the pix

gorgeous weather, beautiful spot – incredibly sweet couple
a couple family members & friends- his son from a previous marriage
Skyped to the Philippines

we did the consult on the16th

great way to start the day

I really do love these short notice weddings, they can be so much fun

how to order drum beaters

my Most Up To Date listing of Drum Beaters is on ETSY

my Etsy Name is  “aTinkar”

you can also e-mail me directly or phone to make arrangements

Just a note

each drum beater is made from naturally occurring “sticks” unless make a special one out of stock from a Woodcrafter’s store

all are individually made (and so far not lathe turned” so each one is different

even 2 sticks of the same wood and same length , I can do my best to make similar but identical is really tough- just sayin’

Tinker

Brand New Video from My Friend Al Romano on Shamanism

enjoy the video

Notes on who to notify about name changes

I generally recommend to my couples that the obtain at least 1 more Official Certified copy of their Marriage Certificate
from the Clerk’s office.
( this is Not the Marriage License that your Officiant has just signed- it is a Certified Copy of the document the State Records;
in Connecticut – it is the original marriage license with the last section completed , this is completed by the clerks office when they record the license. One or more Copies of this are made and a seal is embossed (for a fee of course)

In Connecticut there is no issue with a name change if one spouse takes the last name of the other or the last names become hyphenated ( eg Mr Smith marries Miss Osten they take the last name Osten-Smith)
[If you want a Totally different last name that is a whole other situation]

Notifications
with this Official Record of Marriage you can make name changes for ID’s (Driver’s License eg), Social Security

the other notifications are Insurance, Employers, Banks, Credit Cards
what many folks forget is the Post Office

when I mail a Commemorative Certificate it is frequently one of the first pieces of mail received under the new name
some Postal carriers/Post Offices will return the envelope to me as undeliverable as addressed because the name is different (this generally happens if the couple is moving into the residence of the spouse whose last name was changed) this seems to happen more in larger municipalities than the smaller ones.

Do not forget to let t your Mail Carrier know you just got married- so yo get your mail without delay
the return for the undeliverable mail may take a Month or more

Working on my Event Schedule

Besides booking weddings and Volunteer activities I am sending reservations in for some upcoming events. These are all vending.

So Far I am looking at :CWPN Spring Fling March 16, 2013 at the American Legion 630 Grassy Hill Rd (rt 121) Orange, Ct

The SCA (medieval event) Balfar’s Challange April 13, 2013 Mountain Mist Outdoor Center  576 High Hill Road  Meridan, CT  06450

Ct Pagan Pride Day Beltane Event April 27th,2013 VFW: 152 Massirio Dr., Berlin, CT 06037

Ct Pagan Pride Day (late summer/fall)

I am looking at doing CWPN Harvest Gather

I am still available to teach a variety of classes (though with the cost of gas there may be gas money involved- I do hail from Groton)

an e-mail from a Happy Couple

re- certificate
“I can’t believe it….. We received it in the mail this morning!!!

The certificate looks great. Thank you for including the vows. We are very
happy with the way everything was conducted and really appreciate the
service you were able to provide us.

We got the official Marriage Certificate after lunch on the day we got
married. We went straight to the Subase and were able to get Ann an ID
Card. Our next stop was the Social Security office and Ann’s Social
Security Card should arrive within a week….. we are very happy and again
would like to thank you for all your help.

Sincerely,

Bill”

[ Foot note:this was a meet us the day of “Navy Special” Ceremony ]

Sometimes planned activities change

This Past Weekend I had planned on attending the Society for Creative Anachronism Event  outside Springfield Mass., Novice Schola but a weather “inconvenience” occurred.

Winter Storm Nemo- after digging out enough to get my vehicle out, I was deployed at our local Community Emergency Response Team Municipal Shelter.

I wound up being assigned the job of Shelter manager.

While we did not get the population of the full Red Cross Shelters in South Eastern Ct. we did also host the sub regional “War Room” of  CL&P (one of the 2 big power companies)

The war room is where the supervisory team and team leaders coordinated the electricity restoration road crews.

We also hosted the “office space” for the Utilities liaison to the municipalities.

I returned home to find the snow waiting to be removed from the rest of my parking spaces (a project to work on before today’s rain starts)

Latest Batch of Fuzzy Foot Drum Beaters

Tuvan inspired Fuzzy Foot Shaman Drum Beaters

I have a Space Reserved for the Ct Pagan Pride Day Fall Event

September 8th 2012 from 10 am to 6pm

Connecticut Pagan Pride Day held at the VFW on Massario Dr in Berlin Ct